Is a counsellor or psychotherapist just another person to speak to? Simply explained, it is because you are having therapy and not a conversation and our nearest and dearest are not our therapists.
A therapist will possess the listening skills to uncover reasons behind the traits you exhibit, coping mechanisms, core beliefs, biases and more. They gather information on your story, identify an appropriate outcome and support you in working towards the person you want to be.
Therapy provides a safe and confidential environment to explore your emotions in a way you can’t with a friend or family member. Your therapist will listen without judgement and have the skills and knowledge in how to react to your emotions that friends and family may lack, leaving you feeling alone and unsupported. A counsellor’s role is to listen to you and the difficulties that have led to therapy, you don’t need to worry about burdening them or overwhelming them with your story. They have been trained to process and handle client stories and receive support through training and supervision. Often, people hold their difficulties in and avoid talking to friends or family for fear of burdening them or worrying them.
It takes time to identify unhealthy thinking patterns and behaviours and find healthier ways of being. Do your friends and family have this time available? In counselling your sessions, however frequently you choose to have them. the time is for you and no one else. Connection is a really important part of our well-being so spending time socially with friends and family is extremely valuable, when you have this time you may find it difficult to take the opportunity to speak out about something that is bothering you.
Friends and family can be wonderfully supportive, contribute to overall well-being, providing connection and somewhere to offload. Therapy focuses entirely on you and your innermost thoughts and feelings while providing the opportunity to be heard. Therapy has the power to change your life and in some cases can even save it.